There is no shame in being poor. Perhaps one of the hardest things for me to accept. By the time I was old enough to remember things my dad was already working for the government. Meaning I don't remember when our family was barely scraping by. It allowed me to develop a hard heart towards the poor that surrounded us. When my mom gave a ride to someone who smelled less than pleasant I was not happy. I was resentful. Why do I have to ride with them? They brought this on themselves after all. I looked at being poor as if it was a disease people willingly contracted.
My heart changed eventually, but more in the sympathetic capacity than anything. I still didn't understand the hardship. I still failed to fully understand as I suffered occasional monetary hardship. Like cutting back to only eating out once a week. However I soon understood living paycheck to paycheck. Or even paycheck to 10 days till the next paycheck.
Why am I sharing this? I don't know really just venting I suppose. Control is key to surviving at nearly minimum wages. Yet constant control is one of the most difficult things ever. That is why when a poor person comes into a little money they spend it almost immediately. It isn't because they lack self control it is simply in order to feed themselves keep a roof over their heads pay the bills and live in general they have to be in constant control. One little splurge and they can't pay for gas or dinner.
Imagine if going to the store was a nickel and dime balancing act. If you had to make 50-60 dollars feed you for 2 weeks.
When people make no effort to understand the stress that others live under on a daily basis they make me very angry. You want to judge the McDonalds employee because they weren't perfectly sympathetic to your burger having mustard on it? Well you get to the point where you can't even afford the food at the fast food place where you work at and then chew that employee out.
If opportunity was for everyone then we wouldn't have poor and if you think you struggled and don't have a heart for those struggling than you probably didn't struggle.
I'm incredibly well off compared to many people I see every day, yet I struggle every day to keep myself financially afloat. I look at those with less than me differently and so should you.
This post seems angrier than I meant it to be. I'm very passionate about this subject so I guess you simply got to deal with it.
Thanks for reading.